In Biodynamic Craniosacral therapy, there is a concept called the state of balanced tension. It is the point between what has been and what can be… it is a dynamic pause between conditioned reality and the unconditional possibilities that are available to us. I was immediately captivated by this term with all its implications, and it continues to fill me with a sense of excitement. For while it is applicable in every Craniosacral session, it is also pertinent to life itself.
Too often, we rush through our days. We spend all of our time thinking about the next thing we have to do. The holidays bring this out even more in us- the checklist of task after task growing ever longer, the stress of getting it all done increasing as the inevitable deadlines approach. What happens to the joy of the season when we allow ourselves to be swept up in the business? What happens to the wonder? When is the last time you sat down and actually looked at your beautiful Christmas tree or the shimmering candlelights of your menorah or really smelled the cookies baking and slowed down enough to feel the quiet delight this time of the year can bring?
And what about the New Year? It’ll be here before you know it. Do you meet it with a sense of dread- just another thing on the to do list? Do you get a sinking feeling thinking about the resolutions you didn’t fulfill over 2022, and a sneaking suspicion you’ll be just as successful with any you make for 2023? OR… are you excited? Are you thinking about all the potential happiness and fun this next year might bring? Are you holding yourself in that state of balanced tension, hopeful and anticipating the unconditional possibilities that are in front of you?
Too often, we forget that we are in charge of how we experience our lives. We can choose to be stressed this holiday season. We can choose to just wish for it to be over. We can look ahead to the New Year and feel despair that it will just be more of the same life we maybe aren’t enjoying all that much. Or we can choose to set a new course. To view this as a pivot point- a moment of aligning with our best selves and deciding to move forward in a different, more life affirming way.
Of course, it sounds so simple and yet I know it can be so hard. Our brains, in fact our whole selves, are accustomed to maintaining homeostasis- change on all levels can be difficult. Which is why we have to set ourselves up for success. We need to put in place structures and plans to help us shift in the direction we want to go. We have to be active participants in creating the right conditions for us to live the life we want.
As I’ve sat with what I want 2023 to look like for myself and my family, I’ve filled the calendar already with mini weekend adventures, vacations, continuing education classes, and visits with friends and family. I’ve also been planning what I’d like to offer you – my clients and meditation community… and there’s a lot!
I want to highlight three offerings in particular-
- The January Meditation retreat. If you have not yet done a five day Meditation retreat- here’s your chance! Yes, you can still do just the weekend if time is tight and you want to start the New Year off right, but if there is any way you can swing doing the five day retreat, I can’t recommend it highly enough. Equivalent to meditating twice a day for six months- it will change your life.
- For the first time since before Charlie was born, I am offering small group mentoring. This is an affordable and supportive way to receive consciousness based mentoring and fast track your spiritual development. I’m very much looking forward to getting this group started at the beginning of the New Year!
- Heart Centered Living Classes. So many of you have asked for the opportunity to dive deeper into the facets of the heart- now is your chance! Every month I will be offering a 90 minute workshop on one of these essential spiritual tenets: Acceptance, Alignment, Presence, Invincibility, Gratitude, Forgiveness, Compassion, Generosity, Joy, and Radiance. I can’t wait to go on this journey with you!
Let this moment, right now, be a reminder that you can have a state of balanced tension at any time. You are in charge. You get to choose your own pivot points. You get to recognize your current conditioned reality and decide which unconditioned possibilities you want to pursue. If you ever feel stuck, like you don’t know how to move forward- follow the joy. Follow what lights you up. It could be anything from a cooking class to a podcast to a paint your own pottery night. Those moments of dynamic pause, of being uncertain, always hold the potential to be the moment you look back on later and say to yourself “That was when it all changed for me.” I’m excited for you; my hope is that you get excited for yourself and embrace stepping into your own possibilities.